Jeffrey Barnes

Born: Seattle on 13 September 1949

Passed away: Orange Park on 16 January 2016

Aged: 66 years

The Story

"Death is nothing else than going home to God; the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity." - Mother Teresa

On January 16, 2016 Jeffrey Barnes went home to God at the age of 66. In Seattle, WA, September of 1949, William Barnes and his wife Patricia (Farrell) Barnes welcomed the eldest of their five children to this world. His gentle soul and devotion to his family is the legacy that he leaves with those who had the great pleasure of knowing him.

Jeff married the love of his life and soul mate Debra (Tiwanak) in Honolulu, HI on August 16, 1975 and they would remain faithfully at each other's side for the next 40 years. If you asked Jeffy, as he was lovingly referred to by his wife, what his greatest achievement was, he would say without hesitation, "My family". If you asked him what his biggest frustration was, he would say again without hesitation, "Fox News". His sense of humor and crazy nicknames for his loved ones, his love of music and stupid comedy, his cursing while watching political talk shows, and stories of his younger years are just a tiny fraction of the many things that will be missed. His love for us and whether or not we made him proud was never in question, and our family has a bond so strong that it can't be described in words. There's also no tribute that we could ever write to truly show how much he was loved and appreciated.

Jeff was preceded in death by his parents William Clarence and Patricia Lorraine. He is survived by his 'Punkin' Debra; their four children Nicole 'Booboosquirt' (35), Lindsey 'Dink-Dink / Captain Bucky O'Hare' (32), Jonathan 'GG Boy' (30), and Patrick 'Little Big' (29); Son in laws Arthur Belarde (36), Chad Phillips (39) and Frank Belarde (33); Daughter in laws Marilyn Ocasio (34) and Merielle Tomas (31); grandchildren Aidan 'Buggy Boy' (9), his little 'Chunky Butt' Stella (5 mo), Kaylie (18), Jonah (14) and Aiden 'A.P.' (10); his four siblings Linda Harlow (Renton, WA), Michael Barnes (Seattle, WA), William Barnes (Falcon, CO), JoAnn Anderson (Renton, WA); and his four-legged grandchildren Ruby 'Willie', George 'Georgie-George', Jack 'Don Ameche', Kitty, Gretchen Weiners, Lily and his homie Rambo.

To have known him was a gift, and he touched the lives of more people than he may have realized with his sense of humor and kind heart. We will always hear his voice quoting The Birdcage and yelling "Tannins?!" every time we pour a glass of wine; we will see him raising the roof anytime something with a beat plays; and maybe we will finally take his fashion advice and start wearing bedroom slippers as our daily footwear.

"To the well organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." - Albus Dumbledore
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Thinking of you today. Knowing you was truly a gift. I will make sure your "Chunky Butt", Stella, hears wonderful stories of you. I know she plays Peek-a-boo with you now and then. :) I hope you rest in Paradise, papa. We all miss you. XOXO

Marilyn Ocasio


Jeff, You were my big brother and you didn't know this but I always looked up to you. We really didn't hang out a lot because you were eight years older than me. But as time went by and we got older that that didn't matter anymore and I used to cherish the time that we had together. I'm glad that I was able to tell you that you and Debbie were great parents and had a wonderful family. I'm sad at the fact that you never met my wonderful daughter and grandkids you would have loved them.

William Barnes


Jeff, You may not of known this but I always looked up to you. You were my big brother and between you and Mike I couldn't have asked for a better pair of brothers. I was your best man at your wedding in Hawaii and I've always appreciated the fact that you asked me. We didn't hang out much together because you were eight years older than me but as we got older that really didn't matter that much and I always loved the time we had together. I love you Jeff and will always miss you. I will see you again sometime. Love Bill

William Barnes


I love you Dad. I know we will see each other again, but knowing that still doesn't take the hurt away. I am so lucky to have been able to have you in my life, and I hope that I make you proud.

Nicole Belarde